Thursday Thoughts: Marriage

My Hubby fixed our laptop, so I can finally post again! Speaking on my husband...

Today's passion is on marriage! I don't know why I didn't start with this one, because I love my man way more than I do singing. And no, as much as I'd like to, I'm not going to brag about Wesley this whole post.



Instead, I'm going to share a little of what I've learned through almost two years of marriage (It flies by so quickly!)

First, the biggest killer to any relationship really is ungratefulness. If you do not have an attitude of gratitude towards your husband, bitter thoughts and irritations at little things start creeping in, and before you know it, you are having issues in your marriage and you don't know why. Several times when I have felt irritated at Wesley, if I looked close enough, it was because I stopped focusing on the positive things about him and was only paying attention to the negative (which is hardly any. I have a very good man). It's not to say if there are issues in your marriage you just ignore them, but gratefulness can give you a clearer head to think about them logically.

Another thing that really really helps is humility. This is one big thing the Lord has been working with me on. I have come to realize how prideful I really am. It's scary. I am one of the most judgmental people I know. I have been praying and working with Jesus on loving people, but it's a slow and painful process. But I have noticed that when I react to Wesley in pride, then he reacts to that in a negative way. Humility goes a long way again in any relationship.


Speaking primarily to the wives, I want to stress that while you are not a doormat, you are the most precious gift that God gave to your husband. We are meant to be soft, loving, respectful, and humble servants who wish to make our man happy. I might step on a few toes when I say this, but I firmly believe that women were placed here on earth for the sole purpose of making our hubby happy and complete. I love my job. :-)

Those are two things that I have learned in the past two years of wonderful marital bliss (okay, it hasn't all been bliss, but mostly). I can't imagine loving someone more deeply than I do my lover, and I am constantly amazed by his love and patience with me.

Here are a few resources I have read and found encouraging and enlightening:
Debi Pearl: Created To Be His Help Meet
Chip Ingram: House or Home Marriage Study
Debi Pearl: The Hidden Help Meet
Timothy Keller: The Meaning of Marriage
Pam Farrel: 52 Ways to Wow Your Husband
Kimberly Wagner: Fierce Women 

With love and gratefulness,
Emily

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

#Transformationaltuesday: Moving

Image
Good morning! So, my husband and I are very close to owning a house. I am so excited! Not that I don't like our apartment, but there's just something about owning your own house and being able to be free to do whatever you want to it. Photo Credit: Morguefile I've been packing little by little, and I thought it would be cool to share a few tips that I've been doing for anybody that is moving as well, or that will in the future. Also, I would like any tips from anyone how they packed and moved and what made it run smoothly. My method of packing is a combination of my mom's idea, and one of my own. I know I am going to have a lot of help, and I will get so overwhelmed if I have to keep telling everyone where everything goes. So I came up with a system: I marked every room with a color/s. Like the living room is yellow, kitchen-pink, bedroom-green, and shed-green+yellow. And each box has the coordinating stickers on them. I will have a big poster board with ...
Read more

#TransformationalTuesday: Healthy Stuff

Image
Hello everyone! I realized that I haven't posted anything health related yet, so today's post will be on that subject. I have some health issues. Actually, most of my family has health issues. Although I haven't technically been diagnosed with anything, I have been able to figure some things out about my body. I react to a lot of foods, though thankfully nothing life threatening. I swell, have horrible bowel movements, gas, headaches, sinus issues, and feel tired all the time. It's awful, but not nearly as bad as some of my friends. I would like to talk about one of my food intolerance's specifically. I think a lot of people react to this particular thing, but don't realize it. Photo Credit: Morguefile I am referring to Dairy. Dairy comes in many forms: whey, cheese, yogurt, butter, shakes, ice cream, additives, creamers, and just plain milk. I love dairy, especially sour cream, caramel creamer, and butter goes on everything! Before I was married, I...
Read more

#ThursdayThoughts: Life is crazy!

Image
Wow! It has been almost a year since I started this blog. A lot has changed! As I mentioned in my last post, we moved into a house closer to Wesley's work, and I got a job. I work for a financial management company as the receptionist. I love it! I also had a diagnosis this past year-back in March. I went to the emergency room for some totally unrelated reason, and they ran a bunch of blood tests, and found that I have Type 2 Diabetes! Thankfully, it isn't the insulin dependent kind. I have been on a journey to figure that all out. On top of that, I have some other things that I can't figure out if it's related to my blood sugar or not. So, like this post title insinuates, my life is pretty crazy! But hopefully, I can get this blog going again. But instead of blogging about trying to keep my house clean, I am going to just blog about my life. Because I like it. :D Something else that happened this year is that I started working as a consultant for Paparazzi, a j...
Read more